Recommended by one of the friends, my husband and I started watching this show “13 Reasons why” which has recently gained so much popularity. The drama just ended for us yesternight and I couldn’t resist sharing my views on that. I know am inviting some criticism with the reviews am gonna post and some of you might not like it but that’s my way of commenting on the other side of the story.
This post comes with a spoiler alert!
So, what Hannah Baker did to herself..the reasons she had, it was completely her choice. I am not gonna say if she was right/wrong to do what she did because nobody other than the person in the situation really understands but one has to take into account that every action has its consequences and this doesn’t just end up her life.
I am gonna try and state some reasons on how could have she acted differently to the same situations so that people, especially the young ones who are inspired from the story know that there are different, better ways to handle.
1. Jessica Davis
Every friendship has its ups and downs and high school tests all the grounds of friendship. If we look at the Jessica’s side of story, she was effected emotionally and no two same person behave the same way. No way what Jessica did was right but that is like everyday story in the high school..friendships break and fresh ones start.
Some other characters like Skye or even Clay seem to have gone through the not-so-close-friends kind of phase, its just that they did not record theirs on the tape.
2. Alex Standall
To the youngsters reading this one, when someone do something like that to you…you confront, you DO something about it, not just sit and cry!
Even if you can’t find a way out of it, discuss it with the authorities, parents..someone close. DISCUSS!
3. Zach Dempsey
Yes! How kiddish of you to steal the compliments, supposedly the one good thing happening in her life then!
But seriously? It’s high school after all, you cannot expect an adult behaviour from the kids out there. These things happen very commonly in almost every high school..you just can’t be listing it for suicidal reasons.
Humorously, I remember giving an eye for an eye from my high school days.
4. Justin Foley – Reason II
When Bryce raped Jessica, you were IN the same room and still did not do anything. You did not move, you did not cry for help..nothing! You could have stopped it very easily at that point of time but you didn’t. You just sat there and watched the show and now you blame Justin for not doing anything.
You did not even had the guts to spill it out to Jessica, your once close friend and you blame Justin for not doing anything.
And, while Jessica is busy plotting ways to how to get it out of Justin..you are busy making a tape as how it became one of the reasons of your suicide.
5. Sheri Holland
Again, not defending Sheri..what she did is unacceptably wrong!
But the way Sheri’s character is shown in the show, she is not of the type who will do that casually. People panic..and the way if effected Hannah, the same way it effected Sheri too. She also felt guilty of taking a person’s life and she was working on that and planned to reveal it to Jeff’s parents someday. But what did Hannah do? Nothing, but record it in a tape which was never intended to be reached out to Jeff’s parents..
6. Clay Jensen
Ok, he was on the tapes for some other reason but what if Clay decided to do something to himself after what Hannah did to him. He did not know what’s going on in Hannah’s life and neither did she knew what’s happening in his! Clay also did not had very close friends, he also was effected mentally and who other than Hannah could have understood it properly..but no, we don’t think that ways because its Hannah recording the tapes.
You don’t discuss it with your parents, loving parents who understand you fully and are always supportive..you don’t even think of giving them a chance and go to the counsellor! Fair enough but you make a decision to end your life when he doesn’t come running after you. My dear, I think that decision was already made, you just needed a stamp saying, “I TRIED!”
Some of the people, who were discussed in the show and I did not add here is because I think that the situations might have affected her mentally and left a mark. I have only listed the reasons which I think could have been easily ignored or maybe Hannah was guilty of those too, its just that she did not think it that way.
The sole purpose of this post is to open the eyes of youngsters who get inspiration from Hannah’s stories..there are ways to handle situations and you should learn to tackle!
Discuss with someone you feel close to..you can always find an ear nearby!